Sunday, September 26, 2010

To All the Women

In the last year, I’ve probably read this paragraph (and similar ones) dozens of times as they make their way around Facebook and back again…

To all the unselfish moms out there who traded eyeliner for dark circles, salon haircuts for pony tails, long showers for quick showers, late nights for early mornings, designer bags for diaper bags, and wouldn't change a thing. Lets see how many moms post this. Moms who don't care about whatever they gave up and instead LOVE what they got in return. Post this if you love your life as a Mother.

Well, I have finally written my own…

To all the heartbroken women out there who traded flat stomachs for bruised and bloated ones, romantic nights with their husbands for costly inseminations, designer bags for a refrigerator full of medicine, healthy bodies for headaches and hot flashes, their privacy for a chance at adoption, and wouldn’t change a thing… because every one of these trade offs is a CHANCE at Motherhood. Woman who don’t care about whatever they gave up and instead risk everything for the hope of something wonderful in return. Post THIS if you’d do anything to become a Mother.

16 comments:

Malachi and Layne said...

I have had many people tell me that I cannot possibly be ready for the time, cost and effort that children bring....well all my time, money and energy already is devoted to my future children....I LOVE my kids, I just haven't met them yet!

Dawn Tillery said...

I found your blog a few weeks ago and I am so glad I did! I am 14 months post-m/c and I still feel many of the emotions that you are feeling right now (we m/c at 10 weeks). It is perfectly ok to be sad, to grieve, and to look ahead and think where you would be if the life inside of you had not been taken away. There is not a day, an hour or even a minute that goes by that I don't think about my sweet baby...and of a future that I long to have with a child of my own. So for now, just be strong and seek support when needed. The friends & family in your life that truly understand what you are going through are going to be the lifeline that get you through this! You are in my thoughts.

Rachel said...

I LOVE this post! SO true... I think I'm gonna borrow it (with credit to you of course)!

Mrs. Unexpected said...

What you wrote is so beautiful! I love it.

James and Kresta said...

LOVE it!! Hope you don't mind me posting it.

Stephanie said...

This is so true! If only we all had the courage to post this. Thank you!

Hillary said...

Amen.

Browniris said...

I LOVE this post! I definitely want to post this as my fb status. Thanks for sharing!

Hillary said...

Thank you.

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Heather said...

Fantastic post! So true. If I was a facebooker, I'd post it on my page.

I'm so sorry about your loss. I've been there. I know how much it hurts. And how awful it feels. I totally get it. Hang in there.

ICLW

Hope said...

I am so sorry for your recent loss. I am so sorry you are having to go through all this pain after so many years of trying to get pregnant.

I love the paragraph you wrote. If I was on facebook I'd post it. I hope it starts going around. I hope it helps raise awareness about infertility and loss.

(ICLW #123)

Suzy said...

That is incredible. Do you mind if I repost it on my page?

KAM said...

Love it! I always cringe at those types of posts. It also drives me crazy when those folks continually change their status updates to say how much they love being a mommy.
~ICLW

Lannie said...

Amen! LOVE this!!!

Wes and Dani said...

I'm so glad you posted this. I'm always involuntarily offended by these posts, and other similar ones to it. Remember when that video that the church put out was going around all about how motherhood is a sacred calling? I swore if one more person posted that on FB I'd lose it.

If I was public about our infertility, I'd definitely post it on FB. Instead I'll just read it on here and be glad that someone else understands me.

Christine Dallimore said...

Very well written...and so very true.

I just wanted to let you know that I made a link on my blog to your Letter From Heavenly Father post. I love it and it has helped me so much in the past. I'm sure it will help others too. Hang in there....I hope each day finds you with more and more hope for the future....

FAITH IN GOD MEANS HAVING FAITH IN HIS TIMING.