Ahh, the advice so freely given by well-intentioned people. Just relax and you'll get pregnant! This is one step up from the ever-helpful: Just forget about it and it will happen (hmmm, how about, don't think about polar bears...what? You're thinking about polar bears now? Imagine that...)
Okay, we have established that telling someone to relax does no good. But what about the actual act of relaxing? What benefits can come from that?
Well, I have been giving it a try. I have actually been relaxing, meditating, visualizing, whatever you want to call it. I lay down flat, close my eyes, and listen to a CD filled with oriental sounding music and a calming voice... "concentrate on your feet, releasing all the tension..." At first, it felt strange, uncomfortable, and a tad embarrassing. But then something happened, I began to relax.
I try to do a session everyday. Many times, I fall asleep, but that's okay. I have actually found a lot of comfort in it.
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Madly in love but sadly infertile - Finally parents thanks to God above and the miracle of modern medicine!
Ryan and Michelle
Madly in love but sadly infertile - Finally parents thanks to God above and the miracle of modern medicine!
Purpose of this Blog
I started this blog back in 2006, when I first began treatments for infertility. At that time, it had been three years since we had started trying to begin our family. Once treatments began, it became clear that infertility was not a quick detour on this road of life; rather, it's a journey.
But at the end of it all, when those beautiful children finally come into my life, I want them to know that they were loved years before they were mine.
So, I am writing this for me and for them. And if it allows you to peak into my world, then that's good too.
But at the end of it all, when those beautiful children finally come into my life, I want them to know that they were loved years before they were mine.
So, I am writing this for me and for them. And if it allows you to peak into my world, then that's good too.
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OUR DIAGNOSIS:
UNEXPLAINED INFERTILITY
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My Journey...
- Sept 1996: Our first date - We were 16 years old
- Aug 2000: Married my high school sweetheart
- Jan 2002: Joined a trying-to-conceive online group
- Aug 2003: Officially began TTC
- April 2004: Got an ovulation kit
- July 2004: Referral to Dr. Synn - Fertility Specialist
- Sept 2004: Did a battery of fertility tests. All normal.
- Oct 2006: Began blogging my fertility experiences
- Oct 2006: 1st round of Clomid - BFN
- Dec 2006: 2nd round of Clomid (with patches and progesterone) - BFN
- Jan 2007: 3rd round of Clomid (with patches, progesterone, and IUI) - BFN
- Feb 2007: 4th round of Clomid (with patches, progesterone, and IUI) - BFN
- June 2007: Laparoscopic and Hysteroscopic Surgery - No endo found
- July 2007: Repeated all fertility-related blood work. All numbers look perfect.
- April 2008: First acupuncture appointment
- May 2008: Thyroid panel testing - All normal
- Sept 2008: Began sessions with a psychologist
- Jan 2009: Started Treatment for Depression
- Sept 2009: Repeated Bloodwork - Numbers still normal
- Oct 2009: Back on the acupuncture bandwagon
- Jan 2010: Another Break
- March 2010: Fully weened off the antidepressants
- May 2010: Back to the RE; Second HSG. Tubes all clear.
- July 2010: 1st Medicated IUI Cycle with Follistim - BFN
- Aug 2010: 2nd Medicated IUI Cycle with Follistim - First Ever BFP!!!
- Sept 2010: Miscarriage at 5 weeks
- Oct 2010: 3rd Medicated IUI Cycle with Follistim - BFN
- Nov 2010: 4th Medicated IUI Cycle with Follistim - BFN
- Jan 2011: 5th Medicated IUI Cycle with Follistim - BFP!
- Oct 2011: FINALLY held our baby girl in our arms. Life is Good.
"You will come to know that what appears today to be a sacrifice will prove instead to be the greatest investment that you will ever make."-Gordon B Hinckley
Everywhere in nature we are taught the lessons of patience and waiting. We want things a long time before we get them, and the fact that we wanted them a long time makes them all the more precious when they come.
- Joseph F. Smith
- Joseph F. Smith
Hope Springs Eternal
FAITH
Faith in something greater than ourselves enables us to do what we have said we'll do, to press forward when we are tired or hurt or afraid, to keep going when the challenge seems overwhelming and the course is entirely uncertain.
- Gordon B. Hinckley
- Gordon B. Hinckley
My Desire
What we consistently desire, over time is what we we will eventually become and what we will receive in eternity.
Neal A. Maxwell
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2 comments:
I love this idea of telling someone to "just relax". The other day I actually found myself telling a patient who was having a massive lower body spasm (after a stroke) to try and relax. Good advice Rob, I immediately thought of that when I read your feelings on the notion of relaxing on cue. Has Ryan played any tricks on you while you are listening to your oriental music? What a vulnerable time, I hope he behaves himself.
Hi Robby,
Don't be too hard on yourself. In that situation, I think telling a patient to relax is exactly right. What I'm talking about are the people who give that advice flippantly as they are passing by and then continue on their merry way, leaving me to wonder exactly how I am supposed to accomplish that.
No, Ryan hasn't tried any funny business while I am "relaxing". I think he's still a little confused at what exactly it is I am doing. However, I will not put that idea into his head... :)
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