Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Life Lesson

Browsing on a Internet social networking site, I paused on the page of a friend of mine. An acquaintance from high school, we weren't super close, but she was a friendly face who always had something sweet to say.

Recently married, one child, and pregnant with her second, she seemed to have everything I ever wanted. I wondered why everything seemed so easy for everyone else but me. Of course, staring at the computer screen, I only saw the happiness in her life, and not the hidden difficulties she might have been working through.

Never, NEVER compare your life with someone else. Never think things come easy to someone else. Never begrudge someone else's happiness.

This beautiful woman is now going through something I can not ever imagine, facing a horrible situation no one should have to experience. My heart is literally breaking for her.

There is a quote by Plato that reads, Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. We have no idea the difficulties and, sometimes, full-on tragedies that another person is experiencing behind closed doors.

Be grateful for the people in your life, the blessings you've been given, and the happiness you have. Never forget to look up from your own worries and say a prayer for someone else.


Anonymous said...

amen to that. sometimes we forget this.........great post.

mrs.infertility said...

so true. i'm guilty of thinking that everyone has it easier than i do.
thanks for the reminder :)

Faith said...

Well said.

Anonymous said...

wonderful point. thanks for reminding me of that... it's much needed.

Lemons said...

Thank you. I find myself coveting other women and their seemingly perfect lives too often. It is so true that we never really understand all that others are going through, none of us is without difficulty.

Smiles and prayers,

My Quest said...

Simple post but so true.
We should be grateful for so many other blessings in our lives, good friends, great and supportive husbands, wonderful family and friends and the relationship with our heavenly father.

So true, we should never compare ourselves to anyone else.

Anonymous said...

Just stumbled upon your blog. My heart goes out to you. I use to cry very night because we couldn't get pregnant...I would count the days & obssess about it all day long over & over again as if my fertile day would somehow change the 13th time I counted. After trying for what seemed like an eternity we had my husband tested...and walla we got pregnant! We now have 5 kids...I would have never imagined that as I layed in bed crying (sobbing) silently so my husband couldn't hear.

"In due time" my pat. blessing said I would have kids...hmmm this life or the next I thought!??! You will have the opportunity to be a mother too! Hang in there & keep your spirits up...i know how hart braking it is. Your blog brought me back to the day when I felt similar pains. I am so sorry...and wish I could just make it better. Hang in there!

We all have differnet trials at different times in our life. We have all learned that we would never change our life for someone elses becaus we do not always know what they are going through (or will go through.) Although I think this trial is one the hardest ever because we have been born with that dsire to be a mother. Keep up your due time! :)

Anonymous said...

Michelle, I came upon your blog whilst trying to find some comfort in my own situation. I am 29, from the UK and have been trying to conceive for 2 years. So much of what you write echoes my own thoughts. I too dreamt of becoming a mother all my life, as a child it was always the only thing that I knew I definitely wanted, and now I feel that I am grieving for something I have never had. Like you I have the ups and downs, some months being able to laugh about it and enjoy being with my husband and all the things we do, and other months feeling like nothing will ever be able to fill this void other than a baby. I have watched many friends and relatives conceive and give birth in the time that we have been trying. Whilst I feel no jealousy towards them, it does give me a constant reminder of what I want so much and makes me think 'why not me?'
Anyway I just wanted to say thank you, for showing me that all these emotions are completely normal and I am not alone. Your words have inspired me to have strength on my own ttc journey - one which has so far been shorter than yours and without medical assistance, I feel like a beginner having read your blog! I truly wish you every happiness and success.