tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post4534998118247473082..comments2023-10-10T03:01:28.014-07:00Comments on In Pursuit of Parenthood: Wake me up when September ends...RMCarterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09444163961125333919noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-77430210080515166242011-03-27T20:20:19.192-07:002011-03-27T20:20:19.192-07:00I have been reading your blog for a few weeks now....I have been reading your blog for a few weeks now. Thought I'd say hi. I feel a small little connection with you now that I know that September 9th is a bad day in both of our history. I had my 3rd miscarriage on sept 9th of 2008. I'm am so sorry that you had to go through so much pain after already trying for so long. But, I am happy for you in your current pregnancy and journey toward being a mother! Hope wins out in the end! <br /><br />www.cloudsarefarbehindme.blogspot.comthe Petterson Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01238447966785740399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-43024867351049363502010-09-14T19:28:35.306-07:002010-09-14T19:28:35.306-07:00Today my husband came into the room where we keep ...Today my husband came into the room where we keep the computer ...I was bawling!! My heart breaks for you in this tragic time. I know exactly how you feel! I know the Hope, relife, excitment, and the devistation and hurt...The only hope I can share with you is somthing someone told me, at least now you know you can get pregnant. That is somthing to celebrate!Malachi and Laynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16011767965412354714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-84803679611110498142010-09-11T21:43:38.729-07:002010-09-11T21:43:38.729-07:00My heart hurts for you. Having had 3 early miscarr...My heart hurts for you. Having had 3 early miscarriages myself before having my little boy, I can relate to some of the feelings I am sure you are experiencing. I am so incredibly sorry you have to go through this. I pray so hard that you will be able to have a healthy pregnancy in the very near future. Know that Heavenly Father loves you more than you can comprehend and can give you peace and comfort that you can't find any where else. Turn to him at every moment and he will give you the peace you need to get through this. ::cyber hug::Richard and McKennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17335232192870796344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-31949941647907775502010-09-11T20:59:46.907-07:002010-09-11T20:59:46.907-07:00The "foreboding" feeling must be a mothe...The "foreboding" feeling must be a mothers' instinct. With my first miscarriage I felt from day one that something felt "off...." (not that I knew what I was supposed to be feeling--I was so glad to be pregnant!). <br /><br />With the second pregnancy I felt a lot more calm...until the day that we picked out names. When we did that I had a horrible feeling come over me and I just sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. My husband thought it was because I was just hormonal--and I chalked it up to that too....but two weeks later we found out the baby had stopped growing, and I think something inside of me knew that that day we chose our baby's future name.<br /><br />Michelle, I hope you and Ryan are getting through this. DH and I both had our moments of cursing God and asking "why us?" It's normal and it's good for you to not keep it bottled up. <br /><br />You WILL go through each stage of grief and that is okay--embrace it, don't fight it. Although right now it's impossible to imagine that you could ever be happy again or that you will ever move past this horrible time in your life (these are literally the worst days of your life) you WILL!!! <br /><br />From a fellow LDS sister and someone who has been through this (twice) I can only say this: Pray often, and as hard as it is, PRAY OUT LOUD! Also, go to the temple.<br /><br />No one understands until they miscarry themselves that losing a baby at 5 weeks along is no less devastating than losing a baby at 35 weeks along. A baby is a baby and once it's growing inside of you there is a bond there that cannot be undone. You already want that baby more than life itself. <br /><br />I always wonder if we will ever be able to conceive and carry a child to term, but I am coming to grips with the reality that my experiences of life inside of me may always be brief ones and that motherhood may not be in my future (perhaps through adoption)? It's devastating, but in hindsight I still am so thankful (regardless of how horrible both my miscarriages felt) that I had the opportunity to experience at least that small portion of pure blissful motherhood before it all came crashing down.<br /><br />I hope your glimpse at motherhood will not make you shy away from it all--but will give you a taste of something to look forward to again in the future. Your time will come! Your moment will come!!! It will all work out in the end because you've been promised that it will. <br /><br />And don't forget what sweet words Joseph F. Smith offered us: "Everywhere in nature we are taught the lessons of patience and waiting. We want things a long time before we get them, and the fact that we wanted them a long time makes them all the more precious when they come." <br /><br />Sorry, this was a novel...but I just wish I could give you a hug and tell you it will all be okay!!! I have been thinking about you all the time today and I really hope you are coping (or that you will eventually find a way to cope).<br /><br />Dani<br />danifrisby@yahoo.comWes and Danihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00631532615044514386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-943443194445141712010-09-11T20:23:09.457-07:002010-09-11T20:23:09.457-07:00What happened to you is very similar to what happe...What happened to you is very similar to what happened to me as far as feeling like you were told beforehand. I told my husband a week before our next appointment that the baby was dead and I knew it. I am glad that God prepared me before the AWFUL ultrasound. My heart goes out to you, and you aren't crazy...this has been the hardest time of my life getting over losing my baby...it will take time...tears...pain...but God will heal the wound just like every other time. Hugs to you, don't forget I'm just an email away!!! tamirobite@gmail.comTamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16961231038686618517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-16464644009581280222010-09-11T14:23:00.884-07:002010-09-11T14:23:00.884-07:00I am so sorry that you had to experience that sadn...I am so sorry that you had to experience that sadness. I just started reading "Baby Catcher", it is about a midwife and the journeys she went through, at one point she too excperiences the loss of a baby and her son encourages her to keep trying if that is what her heart desires because that baby is now her "spirit baby" floating in a circle above her, and that baby gets "cuts" so it doesnt have to wait its turn for next time. Now you have a spirit baby who will cut the line and make it back to you someday. I thought It was a beautiful thought and wanted to share the thought with you. My heart goes out to you and your DH. You'and your "spirit baby" will be in my prayers.Mrs. Lydonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15521547747745543120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-8933005517787709912010-09-11T13:07:57.776-07:002010-09-11T13:07:57.776-07:00Oh Michelle, my eyes are filled with tears after r...Oh Michelle, my eyes are filled with tears after reading this. My heart aches for you. I wish there was something I could say or do to take away that pain but I know there's not. Just know that it's okay to feel every one of those emotions that you are feeling. There are a lot of people who care for you and are praying for you and I hope that gives you some sort of comfort. Hang in there.teridianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13609918907419205378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-85305764324399737312010-09-11T07:53:54.078-07:002010-09-11T07:53:54.078-07:00Michelle and Ryan,
Our thoughts are with you. I kn...Michelle and Ryan,<br />Our thoughts are with you. I know there is nothing I can say to ease the pain, even though I so wish I could. But hold tight to anything you believe in, even the simplest thing. We are praying for you, as always.<br />Love Sharon (& John).Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02132881814782176857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-65778485449292963192010-09-11T05:27:42.734-07:002010-09-11T05:27:42.734-07:00Your emotions are all normal after going through w...Your emotions are all normal after going through what you went through. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everything better for you.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16875307109685150842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-65970408331574892862010-09-11T00:05:41.701-07:002010-09-11T00:05:41.701-07:00There are no words. I'm so very sorry and you ...There are no words. I'm so very sorry and you and your family are in my prayers.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11066651322237509170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-79234251626244260582010-09-10T23:54:58.233-07:002010-09-10T23:54:58.233-07:00I'm so sorry for your lose. I can't imagi...I'm so sorry for your lose. I can't imagine what you and your husband are going through. You are in my prayers.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09540357391500090255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-85697819348682210592010-09-10T22:53:27.118-07:002010-09-10T22:53:27.118-07:00Thanks. I actually had a week. It was wonderful. ...Thanks. I actually had a week. It was wonderful. :) I was exactly 5 weeks along when we got that call.RMCarterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09444163961125333919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1618559263667408983.post-25639556648269550612010-09-10T22:50:14.661-07:002010-09-10T22:50:14.661-07:00I am so sorry. What a horrible shock. Such a trage...I am so sorry. What a horrible shock. Such a tragedy that you only had one day of happiness with your little jellybean.Dandle Dreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11133411216569533439noreply@blogger.com